Why Change? Why Now? 3 Good Reasons To Take Charge And Become More Happy
Us mums are the most important people. Period. Us mums hold it all together. We live for others most of our days. We care and worry and help and do… often to the detriment of our own happiness.
Do you know the feeling? To wake up and realise you feel empty, numb, resentful and unhappy. Like you burnt the candle at both ends and don’t even know how to recharge and feel in charge of you own life again. What do you even want?? You are so busy taking care of everything and everyone else, you might have lost our own path a little – and have no energy left to think about your own growth and path.
I’m in this with you. I tried to do it all. I wanted to be perfect (hello Insta comparisons…) and ended up with a life I didn’t want and an emptiness I couldn’t handle. And worst, I saw no way out.
“The only thing more impossible than staying was leaving.”
- Eat Pray Love
This sentence from Eat Pray Love kept swirling in my head. Worse so, both options felt further away from happiness than imaginable.
That feeling of resenting your life and being nearly upset that you built this all by yourself – cause now you feel like you can’t complain about not being happy. You were an active part of creating this life, but you are exhausted and frustrated now. Let me reassure you though. The problem isn’t your life or your hubby for not bringing out the trash or your kid’s teachers for their annoying comments or your boss for his unreasonable feedback. The problem is that you lost your focus and your goals. You feel pushed around by the others around you and their growing demands.
Good news: It’s fixable. You CAN be happy again.
You need an anchor, a WHY, a reason to really go for that change and not waste any more time trying and dabbling.
1. Your confidence keeps declining, and you need to revert that process.
We all lose confidence. The longer we stay in limbo, the longer it takes to figure out the way out, the more your confidence suffers. So I’m here to help and – most importantly – speed up the process for you through my blog posts, IG inspo and courses. Most of the content is free, so it’s a really low risk for you to try out, test, assess. Once you feel like you’ve got the hang of it you can then go for a more advanced course and really switch things up. What’s stopping you to get started now? It’s only your life that’s at stake. Happy or miserable – what are you going to choose?
2. You keep wondering what the problem is and how you got to that point – but lack taking action because you don’t know how.
That feeling of being stuck, in the fog, not knowing how you could have ended up in this situation. The heartbreak of lacking joy and wondering when you laughed the last time. The constant wondering what is wrong and how you can change things – but not getting to an answer? Worst of all, the guilt. The guilt for feeling low, faking happiness, feeling like you’re failing as a mum, as a spouse, as a friend. Having no energy or enthusiasm and hoping your kids won’t end up as miserable as you feel.
3. You’re getting resentful because you have over committed to everyone and everything – and now you simply feel like there’s no time for yourself.
All you want is to reap the rewards for all your hard work of the last few years but it seems you’re out of juice. Your batteries are dead and recharging with a bubble bath just won’t cut it. Being happy is all you want. Feeling that purpose, drive and energy in your veins again. Waking up energised and happy.
Make peace with yourself.
Is that too much to ask for? No, dear friend, it isn’t.
Imagine waking up refreshed, taking time for yourself journaling, meditating, breathing or having a cup of tea with a still mind. Every. Day. Imagine freeing up mental energy by worrying less. Imagine courageously speaking your truth, asking for help and giving feedback without getting emotional or taking things personally. Imagine stating your boundaries and staying in your lane rather than being everything for everyone. Imagine a long to do list and an even longer not to do list. Imagine taking charge of your life. Imagine being happy.
If you are living your dream life then you are actually able to positively impact others, too.
Your relationships and friendship. Your kids. Your colleagues. Being accountable for your life and setting boundaries means that you also make others more accountable instead of babying them. You help your kids get a sense of rest and listen to their bodies. And more so, to their minds and hearts. To pursue what energises them. To live their truth. To be appreciated for their honesty and to be courageous. To just be happy. The next generation depends on us, mums. We need to teach our kids to be themselves and stand up for who they are. To have courage and live with purpose.
The alternative would be dim. Another generation of dealing with burnout, frustration and doing what others expect. Sure, it’s not all on us mums, but let’s face it. We are often the most present key person in our kids’ lives and therefore our kids are exposed to how we handle our lives first hand. Actions speak louder than words. We have to walk the walk if we truly want to transform ourselves and impact others positively.
A lot of parents who don’t believe that their actions impact others around them end up shying away from stepping up and thus raise a new generation of kids who lack resilience, strength and courage. A generation who seeks happiness externally rather than internally.
You will impact your children one way or another. They will learn from your behaviour. Whether you want it or not.
So why not improve your AND their lives by taking charge of your life. Show them how it’s done.
What now? Switch up some habits from today. Get inspired everyday to grow more, set goals, be more conscious. I’ll help you with my classes and posts. Start today and monitor the change for the better. This is true self care. Do this for you, you owe it to yourself.
I can’t wait to hear about the changes you implemented to switch up your lives and live that happy life you so deserve.
